A funeral, a memorial is a Celebration of a Life passed,
A declaration of our thanks and gratitude.
And a fond farewell.
“On March 3, 2012 on her 72nd birthday, my mother Doreen June Baldwin took her last breath on earth and her very next breath she took in Heaven. I had the honor and the privilege of officiating at her Celebration of Life service.”
Pastor Kevin Airrington
Life transitions always deserve recognition. Our life changes in an instant when someone we love dies. Everything is different, except the love. The love doesn’t go anywhere. The sweet mystery is that love survives – it takes refuge in our hearts, weaves itself into the fabric of our minds, and rests deeply in our bones.
Memorials/Funerals/Celebration of Life Services
Although grief is a very personal experience, it is one that is familiar to everyone. Give a voice to your sorrow with services and rituals that honor the spirit of the deceased and respect their values and beliefs. A personalized service will respect the needs and wishes of those in attendance as well.
Create a sense of connection with those close to you and the deceased as you begin to heal from the loss. A non-denominational ceremony allows family and friends to honor the life of a departed loved one, especially when there is no specific spiritual community. Together we’ll create a memorial for the appropriate sized gathering with a time to share special memories of moments passed.
“The important thing is not to stop
questioning. Curiosity has its own reason for existing. One cannot help but be in awe when one contemplates the mysteries of eternity, of life, of the marvelous structure of reality. It is enough if one tries merely to comprehend a little of this mystery every day. Never lose a holy curiosity.” Albert Einstein
In a loving manner, this gathering becomes a Celebration of Life and helps bring some closure to the passing of a loved one.
As a Celebration of Life celebrant, I paint a sensitive portrait of your loved one by selecting meaningful readings, poetry, and music — as requested; along with writing the life biography or eulogy. These elements are woven together to nourish all who assemble to pay tribute. Material for the service is gathered during a personal meeting, where I listen carefully, learning about your loved one’s character, spirit and passions. I go on to spend hours creating an honest and heartfelt ceremony, and speak to others to discuss their participation, if that is indicated. The ceremony is presented to you beforehand, to confirm accuracy in every detail, as well as to ensure that the entire ceremony is a true expression of your loved one’s life and your wishes.
A celebrant funeral or memorial ceremony is designed to be intimate, and real – in a caring, considerate way that pays close attention to the lifetime we honor, along with those who are left behind to find their way. As I officiate, I read from a binder with warmth and compassion. After the last words are spoken and the silence is breathed in when the ceremony comes to a close, the divine spark remains lit. The flame that continues to burn in your heart can never be taken away – your loved one’s lasting legacy belongs to you.
Servicing the greater Medford, Oregon area with experience and familiarity in local funeral homes including:
- Perl Funeral Home
- Memory Gardens Mortuary
- Hillcrest Memorial Park – Ask for Jammie.
- Abby Funeral, Inc.
- Conger Morris
- Various restaurants with banquet rooms.
- Jackson County Library
- Rogue Valley Country Club
- Other Venue Ideas
The venue that you choose for your family member is really a choice that represents the passing loved one. Some people prefer the chapel at the funeral home which is fine…perhaps your loved one was an author or did something special for the community in which case perhaps one the Jackson County Library meeting Rooms would be a great fit. Or maybe you just don’t like the “feel” of the Funeral Home Chapel…then perhaps a hotel meeting room or a banquet room.
During our first meeting while you are interviewing me. We will discuss what YOU want and those wishes of your passing loved one. We will discuss how spiritual or religious you want the service to be. If Uncle Joe never attended church then we shouldn’t say he did and we should make his closest family feel bad because he didn’t.
I have been asked many times if so-and-so was in Heaven. If I knew the person well and I knew their lifestyle (not if they attended church everyday or gave 10% to the church). And I am able to say with absolute certainty I will tell them I believe their loved one was in Heaven enjoying their reunion with Jesus and any loved ones that went before them.
If, however I am not able to say without absolute honesty and certainty I answer this way:
“First of all God loved your _________. All his life on earth Jesus reached out to him. John 3:16 tells us that, ‘For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son that whosoever believes in Him shall not perish but have everlasting life.’ It also tells un in 2 Timothy 2:4, ‘Who will have all men to be saved, and to come unto the knowledge of the truth.’ and again in 2 Peter 3:9 we read, ‘The Lord is not slack concerning his promise, as some men count slackness; but is longsuffering to us-ward, not willing that any should perish, but that all should come to repentance.’
You see God loves each of us so much that it is not His desire that anyone should spend eternity any other place but in heaven with Him. Since we know this to be true and this to be an absolute certainty…then I will believe along with you that your_________is in Heaven at this very moment.”
Besides all of that between you and me…I am not their judge. I have no idea what their last moments were with God.
I am happy and honor if you would consider me to share in your loved one’s final celebration of their life! I always encourage family members to speak and say whatever they like at the service.
Not different from a wedding and I understand that this is a time when you will be grieving…money is always an issue when we decide to “hire” a professional to officiate over a love one’s celebration of life service.
In the Rogue Valley officiants charge between $75 to $1200 to officiate your loved one’s service. This is a large spread and usually is based on experience or what the individual deems as his experience being superior to another. I work off a gift. Basically, you will decide what you want to pay and pay via donation. You have enough to think about at this time than to be burdened with an over confident officiant who thinks that their hour is worth a thousand dollars.
I don’t do this because I can’t find a job…I do this because I enjoy it.